On asking for help…
Posted on | January 13, 2010 | 6 Comments
Friends,
I’m going to level with you, I’m having a dear-diary moment:
Do you know what I think of being independent? I think it’s great. I do.
I am fiercely independent. So is my mother. I like to carry the heavy bags from the grocery store 20 blocks to my apartment. I like to be strong. I really liked to tell the men at the Home Depot in Miami that I could manage unloading my cart all by myself because, guess what? I loaded it myself!
But.
Sharing a burden is one of the most beautiful things in the world. Sometimes what we find ourselves carrying is just entirely too much for one person. Finding the right sorts of people to lean on is certainly key, but having someone with whom to share the load can make a grown woman weep.
I am still completely uncomfortable and awkward asking for help, but I’ve decided that maybe it’s not the end of the world to do so.
Love,
Sam
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January 13th, 2010 @ 8:03 pm
Sam, thanks for reminding me how much I need community….. There is a difference between a responsibility and a burden. I really want to SHARE my burdens, but I also need to look around me to see which of my friends need me to share the loads weighing them down. Good words, little weedhopper.
January 13th, 2010 @ 8:15 pm
thank you sam. i like you do not ask for help-hardly ever. i don’t even think i know how to ask sometimes. thanks for reminding me that help is ok and that i need it at times.
January 13th, 2010 @ 8:38 pm
Oh I heart both of you. Thanks for sharing!
January 13th, 2010 @ 10:49 pm
Of course it’s all right to ask for help! You sound like you’re a wonderful friend- don’t you just ache to share your friends’ burdens when they’re in trouble? Likewise, they ache to help you as well.
Sometimes, letting people help you is just as much a gift for them as it is for you. You’re letting them say thank you for all the times you were there for them.
January 13th, 2010 @ 11:26 pm
thanks judi and i think you’re totally right… it’s a mutual sharing
January 22nd, 2010 @ 3:31 pm
I think asking for help can be the strongest thing someone can do.